Is my preschooler autistic? :: Healthier Together

Your child's brain is unique to them and they will have unique skills, abilities, and needs.

An autistic child has a different way of understanding and relating to other people and the world around them. Autism is a lifelong condition. It affects different children in different ways.

Remember that these differences aren’t always negative. Your autistic child might need support to thrive but thrive they can!

Spotting the signs

You may notice some early signs of autism in the preschool years.

Signs and symptoms must be present across different settings. For example at home, nursery, playgroup and with other family members.

Autistic children have a combination of different traits which means that no two children are the same. These can look different in girls and boys.

If you have an autistic child then you may notice a combination of some or all of the following:

Language delay. Use fewer words than would be expected for their age
Loss of speech. For example using single words when they used to use 2 to 3 word sentences
Repeat a set of words or phrases
Does not respond to others when their name is called
Does not smile or respond to other people's facial expressions
Rejects cuddles when offered, although may ask for cuddles themselves
Little or no awareness of personal space
Doesn't like others entering their personal space
Little interest in others. Does not initiate play with other children. Prefers to play alone
Less or no imagination when they play
Doesn't enjoy things other children seem to enjoy, for example birthday parties
Less eye contact
Rigid and repetitive behaviours, for example hand flapping, rocking, spinning or finger flicking
Overly focused, unusual or limited interests
Extreme emotional reactions to a change in routine
Over or under reaction to sensory stimuli, for example sounds, smells, tastes, and textures

Spotting your child's strengths

It's important to look for your child's strengths. These may include:

An ability to focus intently on areas of interest
An attention to detail
Creative thinking
Ability to recognise patterns
Deep thinking, kind and empathetic. They may struggle to express their emotions but many autistic children feel things very deeply
Effective problem solver. Autistic children need to solve problems on a daily basis, for example, 'how can I focus with all that noise?'

Diagnosis

Start by speaking to your child's nursery or preschool for advice and support
Speak to your health visitor
Seek support according to your child's needs. For example Speech and Language Therapy for speech delay.

If you're not very worried about your child then watching and waiting for a bit longer may be suggested. During this time you, your family and your childcare setting can monitor your child's behaviour and development.

Waiting times for an autsim assessment can be long. While you are on the waiting list, you can still get support for your child.

Most services will work with your child and support you whether or not they have a diagnosis.

Autism assessment in your local area

Each area is different. Your health visitor or GP can refer your child for assessment. Preschool children will often be assessed by a paediatrician in the Child Development Service. Paediatricians will consider if there are any other health or development issues before recommending a full assessment for autism.

Leeds Pre school children are assessed by a paediatrician in the Child Development Team.
Bradford and Craven Children under 7 years old will be assessed by a paediatrician in the Child Development Centre.
Social Communication, Interaction and Learning team (SCIL) offers a range of support to schools, nurseries and childminders in Bradford. Individual support can be accessed for any child with communication and interaction needs. A diagnosis of autism is not necessary.
Wakefield First fill out the social communication assessment referral form
Kirklees
Calderdale

Speak to your GP urgently if your child's development is going backwards and they are losing language or skills.

The video below was suggested by a group with lived experience as they could relate to it after getting an autism diagnosis.

Top tips to help your child

Communication

Use your child’s name to get their attention before you speak.
Speak clearly.
Use short, simple sentences. At first try using single words to communicate. For example, label their favourite toy and repeat that word when they reach for it. 
Add in one more piece of information to what they say. For example, if they say ‘car’, you can reply ’yes, blue car’. That way you are only giving them one more piece of information to process. 
Be clear and specific about what you mean. For example “pick up your blocks and put them in the box” rather than “tidy up.”
Cut out unnecessary language such as “do you think you could...”
Use simple, direct language. You may confuse or worry your child if you use sarcasm, humour, irony or metaphors.
Make sure what you say matches your tone of voice, facial expressions and body language.
At times of anxiety or distress use a calm voice, calm body language and make less eye contact.
Tell your child what you want them to do rather than what not to do. For example “Put your coat on” rather than “Stop wasting time”
Give instructions in the correct order and break things down into chunks. Only give as much information as your child can cope with.
Avoid open choices like “What do you want for breakfast?” You may find it better to give a couple of options such as “Do you want cereal or toast?”
Use pictures and drawings as well as words if your child finds this helpful.
Give them time to process information. Speak. Wait 6 seconds and if needed repeat.

Social skills

Praise and reward your child when things go well.
Help them identify emotions.

Routines

Timetables and calendars with pictures can be really helpful. Write or draw what your child can expect to happen that day and the order of events such as nursery, tea time and bed time. Refer to it frequently.
Have a daily routine to provide structure to the day. Make sure you have a set morning routine, meal routine, bedtime routine. This provides security and reduces anxiety.
If plans change let your child know in advance. Discuss what will happen instead and change it on their calendar.
Starting and finishing activities can cause difficulties. Think of ways to clearly indicate the beginning or end of something. Consider using timers to count down time to something finishing, so your child is prepared.
Waiting and unstructured time can be difficult for autistic children. When possible, plan in advance before going out for example, take a book to a doctor’s appointment.

The Environment and activities

Be aware of how much there is going on. Some children can find sounds, smells or lights overwhelming.
Reduce background noise for example turn off the TV if you are not watching it.
Offer a safe space or time out to calm down
Physical activity can be useful in managing anxiety for all children.